My husband posted something on Facebook the other day, and used the phrase “cray cray” (working with college-aged students keep him both young – and – feeling old). This simple comment set off a long series of responses which included:
- My brother in law asking what “cray cray” meant, because our niece is turning 13 and he wants to be up on the lingo
- a band mom friend who commented that her kids would be mortified to see her use “cray cray” in a post
- me commenting that ” We’re mostly on the other end of this teen journey now. We still don’t know what we’re doing. I’m not sure that we ever did…
Seriously. How do we know? It seems like it used to be pretty easy to tell if you had been a good parent. Your kid was active in the community, had a bunch of nice friends, graduated from high school, went to college and/or got a good job, got married, bought a house, had a couple of kids…at least from outside things looked great.
Our world seems so much more fluid now. Kids are taking a year off to travel. Young adults are boomeranging home to their parents after college because they can’t find jobs. Relationships are “complicated”. A great major from a great school is no longer a guarantee of success.
How do you know if you’ve done a good job? I don’t know the answer.
Time will tell, I guess. In the meantime, all we can do is the best we can, day by day, moment by moment with whatever we have.
Good luck out there! I’m cheering for you!